Connor is a wonderful big brother. When we change Cassidy's diaper, if she fusses, he tells us not to hurt her and says we must be pressing too hard. After a day and a half of being a brother, he has all the answers. When she cried the first day, he cried too, but the Shea told he it was his job to cheer her up and now he is taking that very seriously.
After the 3rd or 4th rejection for the momma today, I had a little meltdown. It makes me a little sad to know that I cant do for her right now, what daddy can. The CCAI rep is saying it is great that she has attached to one of us (and that it is common to bond fast to one parent and a little slower to connect with the other parent) but I am on a mission to make her love me too. So I mustered up the courage to take both kids to lunch without Shea, knowing that Connor would be great and with Cassidy, well I had to hope for the best. She surprised me and did quite well. She didn't cry when we left Shea this time, which was an improvement and she actually ate a little lunch which helps too. Certainly keeping her full is part of keeping her happy.
In an effort to keep the girl bonding thing going, I took Cassidy with me to the "Shopping Outting" while the boys went to the pool. The store was 3 stories, a million people, and HOTter than heck. People stare at Americans like crazy which we are getting used to, but the comments of "Lucky Baby" when you walk by people in the store was interesting. We had a successful shopping trip and then a meltdown on the bus back to the hotel. Luckily Dad, Brother and Hello Kitty saved the day when we arrived back to our room.
All in all I would say we made "baby steps" forward on liking Mommy today but the other 2 have it in the bag!
This morning we signed the paperwork and notarized that Dang, Shi Meng is legally our child, it was presented in like a little graduation ceremony which appropriate. Just like college, 4 years, when you finish this many "papers" you should get some sort of diploma. Our diploma comes in the form of a "Certificate of Adoption
Its gotta be hard mama, but you know she will soon understand, just like Connor, what a wonderful mommy you are and wont be able to resist you. Plus you know the charm Shea has on little baby girls :). Have I told you yet how much I love your blog?
ReplyDeleteI agree. She will understand how much you love her and will always be there for her soon! Try not to get discouraged. It is wonderful that she already is attached to Shea and Connor! You are a wonderful Mom and she is a lucky little girl.
ReplyDeleteOh, and more pictures please! :)
ReplyDeleteStop trying so hard, have some fun with her. Don't forget she has probably been cared for by women who then put her back in her crib or handed her off to another woman, she doesn't yet realize that you are now her Mommy. Being her Mommy is now for keeps; patience, nurturing, tenderness will soon win out. Don't be so hard on yourself. YOU ARE THE BEST! Mom
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